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Of the many reasons why troubled couples might consider looking into a private couples therapy retreat as something which could assist them in resolving their difficulties, one of the main ones is when they are looking for guidance with profound and close relationships.

It is far from true that it is only deeply stricken relationships which could benefit from partnership counseling, indeed there are myriad reasons why it can be a valuable tool which many couples find worthwhile.

These reasons vary from the seemingly minor and insignificant to the weightier and more serious. However, regardless of ranking, all of these have their own meaningful and relevant rationale, so they all merit an airing, a chance to give them the attention they deserve.

Let’s examine 7 reasons why couples seek help from a professional counselor at a marriage retreat:

TROUBLE WITH COMMUNICATION

All relationships are founded on, and can only prosper with, communication. Look at the ways in which it is possible to communicate. Face to face conversations, or person to person contact by phone or text, email (or even the good old-fashioned letter), and of course there are many options for contact and discussion via social media.

A professional therapist can give couples an education in intercommunication, showing them how to develop their skills and engage with their partner in a constructive and productive fashion.

The experiences with communication which a person has in their formative years can have a substantial influence on how they use these skills in later life and in mature partnerships. An experienced counselor can assist couples in seeing that it is possible to choose and develop a new style of communication and not simply rely on what has been ingrained in them in the past.

COUNSELING PRIOR TO MARRIAGE

Although it seems that everything is geared towards the Big Day, there are quite a number of other issues which couples have to deal with before the event itself. How about financial matters? Should they have shared or individual bank accounts? Will they make joint decisions when buying items for the home?

How will duties around the house or apartment be divided in a way that both are happy with? Do they both want to have a family? Where will the respective parents fit in to this new life? These can be awkward conversations to instigate, but a couples counselor can ease the path to discussing these potentially thorny issues in a reasonable and reasoned manner.

SEXUAL MATTERS

Counselors come across sexual matters on a regular basis and are well used to dealing with them and assisting those affected. As sex can be a complicated issue – sometimes it’s a bonding process which further binds couples together, or for the unfortunate it can become a battlefield, an arena fostering fear, discomfiture, enmity, and upset.

AFFAIRS AND INFIDELITY

One of the most wounding and pernicious events within a marriage is undoubtedly the unfaithfulness of a partner. However, even such a seismic occurrence does not have to signal the irretrievable end of the partnership.

A good couples counseling retreat led by an experience therapist will ensure that the road to reconciliation begins in a safe and consoling place, and counseling can aid the couple in discovering useful and relevant steps with which to negotiate the rocky path of infidelity.

RELATIONSHIPS AND THE DIGITAL AGE

Social media can be fun, but it can also cast a pall over relationships and muddy the waters of any partnership. WhatsApp, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook, WeChat, YouTube, Instagram, and sexting can all be enablers of marital disturbance, sneaking in doubt and discord. It is so easy on social media to click or comment without overthinking, but the damage done in mere seconds might not be so easy to undo.

There are many plusses to using social media, but the minuses provide a counterbalance which should not be ignored. So much social media content is subjective that there could well be disagreements between couples over whether things should be shared, ‘liked’, or ‘Retweeted’, and who we should be chatting to or texting.

Social media has changed our understanding of friendship, and now that we can interact remotely it’s easy to block someone, and misunderstandings caused by using these methods of communication are common.

With no vocal inflection or facial expression or body language to guide us, it can be easy to get hold of the wrong end of the stick or take offence at what could well have been intended as a simple and innocuous remark.

It is clear then that this technology can be responsible for damaging relationships, but a relationship counselor at a weekend couples retreat can confront these issues and take the couple through them, broadening their understanding, repairing trust, and setting rules for them with which to avoid the wounds which can be inflicted by social media.

ISSUES OF TRUST

A breach of trust can injure or even devastate a relationship. The issue of trust between each other is so important to the establishment and well-being of a robust and vigorous partnership. But if this pact is broken and trust is lost, it can be a long journey on the road back to a place where trust can be re-established.

Indeed, it can be such a long trip that much hurt and resentment might be experienced on the way. However, couples can be helped to negotiate this journey by employing the advice and methods of an experienced marriage therapist who can help them to find that trust again.

YOU LIVE LIKE FRIENDS

Couples don’t have to do everything together. If a couple is not joined at the hip or in each other’s pockets it does not mean that their relationship is on the rocks. But if a couple find they are living more like friends or roommates then this may be a sign that they should talk to a counselor.

They may feel that they are not connecting mentally or physically in the same way as they once did, maybe they feel they are just existing side by side and have lost the intimacy they once enjoyed. A counselor can aid in their rediscovery of themselves as a couple.

Being in a relationship can be tough, and from time to time everyone experiences ups and downs. Rows, disputes, and personal hurt will occur, and a couples counselor can iron out problem areas and aid the healing process.

It is important to appreciate that this healing mechanism is not simply something that is switched off at the end of the course of therapy. In the long term, changes to behavior and the taking on board of lessons learned will be of vital use to each individual partner and of course to the couple as a whole.

Strong and healthy relationships don’t just drop out of the sky, they have to be worked at, and any couple should give due consideration to the benefits that can be brought to their partnership by attending a marriage counseling retreat.