The Perfect Marriage Intensive Retreat
For Couples Coming From Oklahoma

Married couples across the nation has attended a marriage therapy retreat for many different reasons. Whilst this type of therapy is often viewed as something couples in a relationship crisis do, this could not be further from the truth. 

Often couples with healthy relationships will attend a counseling retreat in order to maintain their relationship. Whatever the reason you pursue counseling, it is valid and justified.

Here are 7 reasons why people may look into relationship counseling retreat:

Communication Problems

It is widely acknowledged that communication is the foundation of any and all relationships. Communication comes in various forms, not just verbal. This could include talking in person, over the phone, messages and social media, but it also includes things such as non-verbal cues, for example body language and gestures.

A couples counseling retreat will teach couples how to communicate in a positive manner. Your upbringing often has a considerable impact on the way you communicate after all, your family are usually the people who taught you how to communicate. Counseling helps people to make conscious choices about how they communicate, enabling them to not default back to their usual communication style.

Pre-Marital Counseling

Relationship problems do not just arise after you’ve tied the knot. Often the issues have been there all along. It is seen to be very healthy to partake in pre-marital counseling at a retreat, as you are resolving issues with your partner in a helpful way, before they become much bigger problems.

One of the most common reasons for couples to seek out therapy, prior to beginning their marriage, is financial reasons. The next most common is, considered to be, household duties. A marriage therapy retreat is a safe place to have honest and open dialogue about your relationship.

Sexual Problems

Sex is often a sensitive area in relationships. It frequently causes people a lot of anxieties. This is not something that you want to bring into your marriage. It is something that should be resolved as soon as the issues arise.

Sex is often a tool in relationships to heal and bring closeness, so when the sex does not work how you want it to, it can be detrimental. You should not be embarrassed to talk to counselors about your sexual issues, it is something that is extremely common, and they’ve probably heard everything you will say before.

Infidelity

This is often the biggest fear in relationships. Being unfaithful, or having your partner be unfaithful to you, can be the most damaging thing a couple ever experiences. It needs to be stressed that this does not have to mean that the relationship is over!

A marriage counseling retreat provides a healing space and can lead towards an amicable resolution. It can be very helpful to have a professional guide you through the hard conversations to come.

The Digital Age

The digital age brings so many new exciting things! But it also brings with it a whole new world of problems for relationships. Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, sexting, texting, SnapChat, online pornography, the list is endless. Problems often start with disagreement about who to ‘friend’, what to ‘like’ and who to chat with.

Communication that is not done face to face is a minefield of its own, as you cannot use the person’s body language and tone of voice to gauge their meaning correctly. In addition to this, people are often much more ‘brave’ when communicating via messages and text, causing people to say and do things they wouldn’t dream of doing in the real-world.

Relationship counseling at a couples retreat can help you define, alongside your partner, what you’re comfortable with and therefore boundaries can be set. Therefore, enabling the relationship to move forward.

Trust

Once the trust is broken in a relationship, it can be difficult to get back. That being said, it’s certainly not impossible! Trust is needed in order to have a healthy, happy relationship. Often, after the trust is lost, it can be slow to regain. Counselors will be able to educate couples about how the trust can be born again. They will also be able to provide tools to push you in the right direction.

Living Like Roommates

It can be pretty easy to fall into the habit of living like roommates. Real-life gets in the way, you’re tired, busy and stressed and the last thing you want to do is be intimate or do things together. This can lead to you ‘co-existing’. This indicates that you are ready for some counseling.

A skilled practitioner will be able to work with you to regain that closeness and intimacy. It is not fair on either person in the relationship to live like this. It is so important that you work on becoming a ‘couple’ again, not just roommates.

Relationships are difficult. That cannot be disputed. No two couples have the exact same problems and it is often uncharted territory for you and your partner when things start to go wrong. A relationship counselor is a good place to start in order to prevent smaller problems becoming bigger, more serious ones. There is no shame in seeing a counselor. Many couples do it even if they are happy with their relationships, in order to maintain this.

As with all therapy, it is often not an easy route, but it is worth it! If you think your relationship is worth saving, then it is imperative that you take positive steps to fix the issues. One of the best things about going to a marriage therapy intensive, is that the lessons learned, and the behaviors changed, will continue to serve your relationship in the future. Therefore, hopefully, preventing more problems from occurring.

It takes hard work to solve relationship problems and both partners have to be completely invested in the change. Couples counselors will be able to teach you the skills you need to resolve your problems, as well as facilitating healthy conversation between partners. Remember… communication is key! Counselors have so many tips and tricks to support your healthy communication. Once this is sorted, the rest is often able to fall into place.