When we started the Relationship Rescue Academy Intensive Weekend neither of us knew what to expect. Unfortunately our case was not easy. We were at the 90 day mark after my affair was discovered.
We apparently had what it takes to restore our marriage; my repentance and my husband’s forgiveness, but instead of improving, we were going backwards.The path to healing was very difficult, there was a lot of pain.
There were two separate healing that needed to take place in order for us to move forward in our relationship. My healing was fundamental in the process of restoration. Sadly, I wasn’t aware of who I was getting involved with when I started the affair. I opened the door to my fears and basically my life became a living hell.
I allowed myself to live in the midst of manipulation and control. I had found myself in an illicit relationship with a narcissist.The psychological, emotional and spiritual damage that I was facing was destroying my life. Despite having the love of my husband by my side and him being willing to restore our marriage, I was in a tunnel with no way out.
I was eagerly looking for answers due to the deep pain I was in.I could not understand what was causing so much destruction in my life. During the 90 days prior to the Intensive Weekend, we sought help from counselors and couples’ coaches who have been through similar issues and succeeded.
They were certainly helpful but there was still a shadow between me and my husband that did not allow me to feel the forgiveness and love of my husband completely. Our hopes were running out and we were literally tired of suffering. It was as if a cancer tumor was growing inside of me and treating it with chemotherapy wasn’t helping.
I felt like I was going to undergo surgery that would eventually have two exits….. eliminate the tumor and heal my relationship or my marriage would come to an end. When we arrived at the Intensive we put in the work. We discovered why I was vulnerable enough to start a relationship outside of my marriage.
I had many questions about myself….. What did I find in this negative person, that was so powerful to take me to the point of allowing two years of constant abuse? What could that be that was driving me away from my husband’s love? For me, all these were unknowns disguised as lies and manipulation that kept me bound and made me a slave to my sin.
Despite not having had contact with this person for months, I felt that he was still abusing me and controlling me. My sense of guilt and shame had driven me away from the power of God. So, during these 4 days of pure determination to discover the true causes of our problems, we opened our hearts to what we saw as the last resort.
We received guidance with a personalized approach. Relationship Rescue Academy offers 1-to-1 counseling with a highly qualified marriage therapist. And on the third day after hours of mutual commitment and the wisdom of our therapist, we were able to dig deeper.
We experienced a breakthrough. From that moment we have taken a path towards healing. We are aware that healing is a day by day process and we have to put our new tools into practice.
We trust that by using the techniques we learned during the Intensive Weekend we can move forward to honor the Lord our God with our life. For years I wanted the grace of witnessing a miracle.
Today, after attending the Intensive, I can proudly say with great conviction that what happened during the Intensive Weekend was a miracle in my marriage to glorify God.