There are many different types of relationships that you might encounter in your hunt for finding ‘the one’. This article will give you information on ten types of relationships, what to look out for and what this means for the relationship.
You will have probably experienced one, or more, of these over your dating career. But do not worry about this, it is normal to have a few ‘wrong’ relationships before you find Mr/Mrs Right.
Everybody has a first, for some it is also their last. But for others, their first relationship sets them on the path for finding the one.
The first relationship is usually a special one, it will teach you many things, most importantly what you want from a relationship. Entering into your first romance is often a bit of a learning curve for those involved, use this to your advantage when trying to find the one.
It is a pretty common thing to have a rebound from relationships, especially those that are longer term. Often in a rebound your self-esteem is low and your ego still bruised from your previous relationship. This can put you on the path for failure straight away.
It will almost feel like you’re filling time until the right one comes along; this isn’t fair on either of you so get out of there quickly. Put your time and energy into pursuing relationships that are meaningful for both people involved.
Entering into a new relationship can be quite a daunting experience and you will often feel the need to control what is happening. That is normal. What is not normal is when the controlling party turns the relationship into something damaging and unhealthy.
This will often take the form of checking messages, controlling who the other person sees and monitoring social media. This is not healthy, remind yourself of this. If you’re partner is like this, or you feel yourself becoming like this, it might be time to evaluate the situation.
Too Clingy or Too Independent
This covers both ends of the spectrum. Being ‘clingy’ often comes from a place of insecurity, but can have a negative impact on a relationship, often irritating the other half of the relationship. Despite it being well-meaning, people have different preferences in a relationship.
What is ‘clingy’ to one person, is perfect to another. On the other hand, one party in the relationship could be too independent. This can also cause problems for relationships. It is all down to the preferences of those involved in the relationship.
This is something that can be fixed by having a discussion with your partner. Compromise is often key and if you really love somebody, you can work through this.
Too Different or Good on Paper
This is another one that covers to ends of a dichotomy. On one hand, if people are too different it can be hard to make a relationship work.
This can be a blessing and some people claim it is fantastic for the people in a relationship to have different interests, it helps to keep the relationship interesting. Alternatively, not having anything in common can also drive a wedge between the couple. Who knows, it may work for you.
The other end of the spectrum is the ‘looks good on paper’. You meet somebody, you have everything in common, but is that enough? Don’t feel like you should like somebody, just because you think they’re good for you. In this instance, it is usually that spark that is missing.
No, we’re not talking Britney Spears here. A toxic relationship is one where you do not feel special, secure or happy. These relationships usually seem great at first, they are full of fire and passion. But when that dies down, as it does, often true behaviors become apparent that you hadn’t noticed before.
This can take the form of passive aggressive behavior, criticism and even abuse. You should never feel like you’re walking on eggshells in a relationship. Get yourself out of there before it becomes even worse.
This is not one for the faint of heart. Long distance relationships are challenging. Even the strongest couples struggle with this one. You have to weigh up whether you can deal with the distance for the one you love, for those that can, this relationship can actually work really well.
This is pretty self-explanatory. Have you ever been in a relationship where it is all passion but not much else? If so, you’ll be more than familiar with this type of relationship. It is often really exciting when it is happening, but ultimately will not amount to very much.
This can be a tough one. There are some relationships where you love and trust somebody and that is all. There is no attraction there, no spark. It is often too easy and cozy. Stick with friendship if that is the case and continue in your quest to find the one for you.
Your Last A.K.A THE ONE
This is the person that you cannot imagine spending your life without. The One. You’ve finally found them. You start imagining your future, your children, your marriage. You make each other better people. This is the most satisfying type of relationship and your quest is complete.
Remember, just because they are the one, does not mean they have to be perfect. You have to know that you can learn to love any little quirks they have. If you can do that, you’re onto a winner.
Finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with is hard. It is normal to go through some wrong relationships first. This happens to the majority of people out there. If you are still on your hunt for Mr/Mrs Right, keep at it. They might be just around the corner!